Alone. That dreaded word.

Ahhh yes. The word alone. It is a word that a single person has dwelled upon at least once in their singleness. If you claim you haven't, you are a liar. I'm just sayin! I know I have. With my marriage ending last year, God has been working on me regarding this subject. Before I get to that, let's look at this word more closely.

Merriam Webster's defines alone as being separated from others. It defines lonely as being cut off from others; lacking company. I'm sure there is at least one person reading this right this very minute can relate to these definitions. If you can, your thoughts may sound something like this:

"Will I ever find a husband?"
"My friends never look me up!"
"My kids are out doing their thing, and I'm stuck at home."
"I have no life."
"I wish someone knew what I was going through right now."
"Does anybody even care or think about me?"
"Everyone is out living their life, and I'm by myself."


Without even knowing your situation, I know the feelings that swarm your thoughts. You feel anxiousness, gloom, sadness, fear that you'll remain this way... the list goes on and on. The danger in these feelings is that they will lead you straight into a path of depression where all you can see is lack in your life. And the crazy thing is that we get all worked up based on a fact of life that is simply untrue. I was heading down that path until I had an awakening.

Let me explain. You see, I profess Jesus Christ as my savior and Lord. I am a daughter of the Heavenly Father. If you also profess the same, the word "alone" needs to be wiped away from your language completely. The word alone is one that is from the devil's vocabulary. It's a word he uses often. He whispers it into our ear, we hear it, dwell on it, and allow it to sink into our soul. Our soul is where our mind, will, and emotions live. When the word alone makes its home in our soul, it's bad news. 

If you don't believe me about it being the devil's word only, try to find any scripture to back you up. I dare you. In fact, I can find scripture to back me up quicker than you will ever find your evidence. You see, the Word of the Lord declares that we are NEVER cut off.  Allow me to show you...

• "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6
• "No one will be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you." Joshua 1:5
• "Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."  Romans 8:39

You see, the devil would like nothing more for you to think that you have been "cut off" from things, people, and blessings in your life to leave you in isolation. But God is telling you right now otherwise. He is ALWAYS with you. Do you believe that? Do you really? Be honest with yourself.

If not, I have been there. Trust me. I've had many lonely days. However, God does not desire for you to stay in this condition. He wants to give you a heavenly exchange. He wants to remove that word from you and replace it with his love. He wants to you to feel His wholeness. That means you will no longer feel like you are lacking in any way, certainly not lacking in company.  

So how does this happen? Be honest with God about how you are feeling. If you have to tell him while bawling your eyes out, DO IT! If you have to yell it at him, DO IT! I dare you. Dare Him to make His presence known to you. God will not be mad at you. He desires intimacy with Him. Intimacy requires honesty. It's in those moments that he removes the source of your loneliness. If we look in the Bible, there are plenty of examples of this.

• "I sought the Lord, and he answered me. He delivered me from all my fears." Psalm 34:4
• "The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me; your love, O Lord, endures forever-do not abandon the works of your hands." Psalm 138:8
• "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:17-18

God is with you. He hears you. He wants to heal you. He wants to calm your fears. He wants to remove all the hurt that is causing you to feel alone. And when he does, my sister, He will fill that loneliness with joy. Once He does this, look out! I really mean that! Look out! You will feel like a new woman. 

Disclaimer: Yes you will feel like a new woman, but the devil is sitting by just looking for an opportunity to come and whisper again. There will be always be enmity between women and the devil. Enmity is "an active, and typically mutual hatred or ill will." The book of Genesis speaks to this. So he will not give up. This is why all that free time you had saying, "Whoa is me!" needs to be filled with God. Either you need to spend that time in God's presence in prayer and worship, Bible reading, or doing something for God like attending a church group or volunteering somewhere. Idle time is the perfect breeding ground for the devil's whispering.

Lastly, I want to speak to those of you reading that do not know Jesus as your savior. If this subject has spoken to you, and you desire to know what it feels to have joy and experience his wholeness, it's simple. Talk to Him. Ask Him to forgive you for all your destructive thoughts and actions (sins), and ask Him to enter your life. He's waiting for you. Do it now!

Be encouraged my sisters. You're never alone. He is with you even now as you read this. Do you feel Him? :)